It's Hard to Adjust

Some days are better than others, but every now and then, well, for lack of other words, it just plain sucks. I should be used to moving I guess. I look back on my life and I have moved a total of 5 times. All within the state of Texas, but Texas is a big state. I am lucky to be closer to my hometown now. For a while there, I lived almost 6 hours from home. My kids were born up there and I'd be lying if I said I don't miss it from time to time. Each time we have moved, we ended up living there for a while. Long enough to start a life...new friends, new home, new church, had a routine going. Then, change. It was work related. The move. Fortunately, we were moving back to my husband's hometown, the same town we had lived in previously...the same one I had attended college. I didn't know what to expect. All my friends I had left way back then had moved away. I looked forward to it, but I missed my friends. They were like family to us. I knew that once we moved, our seeing eachother was going to grow slim. But, we shall always remain friends. Thank goodness for Facebook! Ha!

It took a while to get started making our new life. We were so poor. My husband took an incredible paycut to move there and basically start over as a salesman in his company. He does such an amazing job. Our house back in our other town wasn't selling. It took 5 long months and 3 contracts to finally sell. I know he was so frustrated. It was a very stressful time. He was worried about his job and money. We only had one car. We had two small children and were renting a house that we were barely getting by with. Depression was always lurking for both of us. Life was just not good at that point. But, slowly, things changed. We made friends. We found a church home again. My husband received a promotion after only 3 months of moving. With that came a raise and with that came a second car. Yay, things were looking up. Before long we bought our next home. The kids started school and more friends emerged. PTA and dance recitals made up my life for a while. Again, my husband earned another promotion. He was climbing the cooperate ladder and feeling good. But with that new promotion came more responsibility and more pressures. Stress remained. Life goes on.

Once again, my husband earned another promotion. This one came with another move. 4 1/2 hours away, but closer to my hometown. I was excited but saw the looks of my friends I had come so close to. Some cried and others rallied behind us. Luckily, we still have family there, and my husbands company is based there so we travel back about once a month. Not too bad. It is just those inbetween times that get hard. This school system is different. I haven't made alot of friends yet, but I know they will come. We have a new church and are involved in it. We joined a home group and have met lots of people our age.

Here's my checklist for what you need after moving to a new town:

1. Church home (if you go)
2. Doctor
3. good hairstylist
4. good mechanic
5. dentist
6. reliable babysitter!!!

You never realized these things until you no longer have them. Kind of like your friends. Yeah, sure, I can call them whenever. It is just the quiet times, or the weekends that I miss. Those times you can say "Hey, what are yall doing this weekend? Wanna go grab some dinner or drinks? or Yall come hang out with us tonight, we'll order the pizza!" We love to entertain and we haven't had that opportunity yet. We finally sold our home after 15 months of trying finally ending in Feb. We have been actively looking for a home to buy and just now have a contract on one after 2 contracts fell through. I never knew buying a home had to be soooo hard. Nothing wrong on our end, first guy didn't want to fix anything after the inspection and the 2nd realtor never showed our contract to the owner! Never had that happen before. Crazy! But this time, the seller never even countered. Took our contract the way we asked for it. Hopefully that is a sign from God...that this is our home! That is the way I'm taking it. I have a peace about it.

Hopefully this will be it for a while. I miss my friends but I love making new ones too. I love being so close to my mom and family. I love being close to the big city as well, so much to do. Plus, my best friend lives in the city and we see eachother more now than we have in years. My husbands best friend lives there as well. So that is nice. I am excited for what our new town has to offer my family. Hopefully, the loneliness will end soon. It will, always does.